How to Support Your Teen's Mental Health

The teenage years can be tough — we’ve all been there. These years are where navigating social dynamics begin. It also marks the start of grappling with hormonal challenges and more academic pressure. There is a lot on their plate, and this is something that parents (or any adult dealing with teens) should always keep in mind. 

That is why amidst all this, maintaining good mental health for them is not just beneficial—it's crucial. It is the sturdy foundation that allows them to strive through life’s challenges, build their relationships, and ultimately lay the groundwork for their future. 

But it’s not always easy, especially in today’s hyper-connected world. It’s hardly surprising that more teens are facing mental health challenges. In fact, approximately 16.39% of adolescents (aged 12-17) disclosed experiencing at least one significant depressive episode (MDE) during the previous year.

That said, awareness is the first step to action. As we dive deeper, remember this: understanding and supporting teen mental health isn't just for the professionals or the educators; it's a collective responsibility. Every one of us, from parents to peers, can make a difference. And trust me, making that difference is worth every ounce of effort.

Open Communication

As stated above, teens often deal with hormonal changes, which in turn affect their mood. They often deal with a range of emotions, and sometimes, they might find it just as hard to connect with us. To bridge that gap, always foster a sense of open communication. 

As an adult, be a safe space where your teen can share insecurities, doubts, and fears without fearing judgment. At first, it may seem like first nature to you to put up the critical parent role. But that’s not the point here. Listen and let them know (and feel)  that home, or wherever you choose to talk, is a place of trust and acceptance.

Remember: Active Listening

Active listening is another key here. Don’t just nod when they speak. If you care for their mental health, genuinely hear out what they have to say, even if sometimes you may not agree or understand.  Avoid saying things like, "When I was your age..." because their world is different from ours when we were teenagers.

Be Involved

Don't underestimate the power of asking open-ended questions. Instead of asking, "How was your day?" try asking, "What was the best part of your day?" or "Did anything interesting happen today?" These questions encourage conversation rather than one-word responses.

Here’s a list of questions parents can ask their teens to prompt more engaging conversations:

• What's something new you learned today, either about a subject or a friend?
• Were there any moments today that challenged you or made you think differently?
• What’s something you’re proud of accomplishing today?
• What’s something funny that happened today?
  

Validate Feelings

It's easy to dismiss their struggles as "teenage drama," but their challenges, no matter how small they may seem to us, are significant to them. By validating their experiences, we're telling them, "I see you. I hear you. You matter." In a world where they're trying to find their place, that's a message they need to hear clearly and loudly.

Encouraging Healthy Habits

Growing up, we often heard the saying, "Your habits define you." This is especially true in formative teen years as the habits we nurture can set the tone for a lifetime. 

Endorphins are mood boosters. Whether it's a jog around the block, a dance class, or a brisk walk with friends, moving your body is akin to giving your mind a breath of fresh air. Fuel the body with good food like omega-3 fatty acids, whole grains, greens. Sleep and quality rest is also extremely important to avoid grogginess and induce mental clarity.

In this digital-forward era, address screen time. While it connects us, it can paradoxically isolate us as well. Encourage teens to set the phone down, to engage in real-world activities, fosters genuine connections and gives their minds a much-needed break from the constant digital buzz. 

And of course, as an adult, set an example. They should be able to have someone they can look up to or even do these activities with. For instance, instead of telling them to put the phone down, present an alternative like “Do you want to try playing tennis with me?”. Perhaps ask them something they’ve always wanted to try, and encourage them to do so.

Limiting Stress

The weight of academic pressures is undeniable. College admissions seem more competitive than ever in these years. Not only that, but the push to excel not just in studies but in extracurriculars, the academic load can feel like carrying a mountain on one's shoulders.

 Social pressures, too, have evolved. The quest for likes on social media, the fear of missing out, and the desire to fit in can take as much of a toll as any exam. Recognizing these pressures is the first step. Do not dismiss but rather understand their depth and impact.

One of the best gifts we can offer teens is the skill of time management. It's not the most glamorous of lessons, but it's a sustainable solution. Help them to prioritize tasks, chunk their responsibilities, and set realistic goals. 

On the other hand, encourage them to take moments of pause. Let them understand that it's okay to step back, to breathe, to indulge in self-care, be it a spa day at home or an evening with a book.

Conclusion

As we round off this exploration into teen mental health, it's clear that the landscape of adolescence has dramatically transformed over the years. However, the underlying principle remains consistent: the importance of proactive care and attention to their well-being.

It's easy to fall into the reactive mode, addressing issues only when they manifest blatantly. But the real power lies in anticipation, in understanding the subtleties before they snowball into more significant concerns. Just as we wouldn't wait for a plant to wilt before watering it, we shouldn't wait for evident signs of distress to attend to our teens' mental health.

Take Action with FundaMental Change

FundaMental Change is a movement driven by personal stories, expertise, and a commitment to catalyze change. Through our diverse strategies, events, and initiatives, we bring together policymakers, community stalwarts, grassroots champions, and residents from San Fernando Valley and far beyond. Our keystone events, from the Annual Mental Health Symposium to our Sip of Hope series and the essential Mental Health First Aid Training, showcase our unwavering dedication.

Parents, guardians, and educators – your role in the lives of young individuals is pivotal. In our ongoing quest to nurture and safeguard the mental well-being of our youth, we recognize that early support and understanding are crucial.

FundaMental Change invites you to expand your ability to make a real difference. By signing up for the Youth Mental Health First Aid program, you will gain invaluable skills to:

• Learn to detect early indicators of mental health challenges in young people.
• Acquire the skills to approach and discuss mental health concerns with compassion and clarity.
• Be prepared to offer initial help and guide a young person toward appropriate care.
• Understand how to de-escalate situations, potentially preventing a crisis before it happens.

🚨 Immediate Assistance Needed? If you or someone you know is grappling with a mental health crisis, dial "988" immediately. Assistance is just a call away.

Recognizing the unique challenges of the San Fernando Valley  - a vibrant mosaic of over 1.8 million individuals - we've crafted a comprehensive resource page. With startling statistics like one in four individuals battling a mental health issue, and nearly 2 million residents facing mental health disorders annually, having localized, trustworthy resources is not just valuable, it's vital. Your Well-Being Matters. Let FundaMental Change be your compass in navigating mental health in the San Fernando Valley. Dive into our resources, attend our events, or simply join our community.